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How to explain separation to your workplace
How to tell your manager about separation without over-sharing, including what work actually needs to know, flexible work, leave, scripts and boundaries.
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How to tell your manager about separation without over-sharing, including what work actually needs to know, flexible work, leave, scripts and boundaries.
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Co-parenting
What to do if your ex cuts off communication entirely
What to do when your ex stops communicating about children or admin: keep records, use structured channels, understand escalation and avoid panic decisions.
01-Survive
How to help someone through separation: what actually helps
How to help a friend or family member through separation in Australia. What to say, what not to say, practical help that matters, and when to worry.
Co-parenting
When both of you bring kids into a new relationship: the blended-family reality
Blending two households with kids from previous relationships is a different challenge to introducing one new partner. The sibling dynamics, the discipline question, and the pace that actually works.
03-Rebuild
Books that can help you through separation (even if they're not about divorce)
You don't always need another book about divorce. Sometimes you need help with grief, overthinking, decisions, admin or working out what comes next. A short list, grouped by the problem each book helps with.
Co-parenting
Moving in together: when your new partner meets your kids (and your ex finds out)
A new partner moving in changes more than your living room. What actually shifts legally, how to pace introducing them to the kids, and how to tell your ex without starting a war.
Legal
Relocating with the kids after separation: what the law actually requires
Moving interstate or overseas with the kids after separation isn't just a personal decision if there's a parenting order in place. What the law requires, what courts weigh, and how to avoid a dispute.
Legal
Separating when you own a business together: what actually happens to it
A jointly owned business doesn't split like a house or a super account. Buyout, co-running it through a transition, or selling up — the paths, the landmines, and why you need a lawyer and an accountant, not just one or the other.
Co-parenting
Co-parenting apps: do you actually need one, and what they're really for
Co-parenting apps promise to fix communication with a difficult ex, but their real value is usually the record they create, not the relationship they repair. What they're good for and what they're not.
01-Survive
The first month after separation: from emergency to working system
The first month is where you turn emergency into structure: a temporary kids' rhythm, a record of who pays what, boring communication, a will check and two anchors.
01-Survive
The first week after separation: what to sort
Once the first 24 hours are covered, the first week is for stabilising the basics: support, one legal information session, payments, a rough budget and your documents.
01-Survive
The first 24 hours after separation: what to do and what to leave
The first 24 hours are for immediate stability, not final answers. Five things matter: money access, passwords, a financial baseline, three trusted people, and food and sleep.